Living with uncertainty

I have, against the advice of my sister K. among others, resumed actively playing the dating game, oddly enough using the same online dating service which brought me the staggering highs and debilitating lows of the two-year rollercoaster known as S.

Today  I received a rather passive-aggressive note from one of my matches whom I had initially communicated punctually with, but whose most recent message had gone read but unreturned for a couple of days. She mentioned that she was reluctant to jump to conclusions, and then did just that by associating my tardiness with disinterest. As I racked my brain for what David Burns would call the cognitive distortion which had unfortunately trapped her, I found this good advice on the value of letting go:

"People often jump to conclusions because they have trouble living with uncertainty. Being content with not knowing what people are thinking, and not knowing what is going to happen in your future, is ultimately empowering, as this is the reality that you are living with most of the time: if you admit it, you will ultimately be better equipped to act effectively in different situations and ultimately get the most out of life."